I attended my first men’s group in Sydney back in 1984. That experience proved such a life-changing event that I have been involved in men’s work ever since. I have found, and continue to experience, tremendous strength in men’s groups. Growing up, I was taught to keep my feelings to myself, especially sadness and pain, so to be connected to a group of understanding men who hold space for one another to share thoughts and feelings is truly a sacred experience. I never have to be alone when I face problems about health, relationships, children, careers, or anything that matters. The old way of manhood was to tough it out and handle problems alone. We’re meant to be connect to counsels of men.
As a psychotherapist, I lead groups for men and run workshops on a range of topics about masculinity: establishing male friendships; walking the path of the hero; connecting with the male spirit; and becoming the fathers we desperately wanted. Each group experience teaches me more about myself. In the process, I have gained humility and wisdom, acceptance and love.
I’d love to open a dialogue about other experiences in men’s groups.
